I spent some time with a cousin the other day who I had not seen in many, many years. How many? - you might ask well, his oldest son will turn eighteen this summer and I don't think I have ever seen him. There is a history behind why we fell out of touch and a lot of things that I wish had been done differently but all in all I have missed my cousin and wish that all those years had not been lost to the blockade I had set up. See when something hurts us or we are disappointed in ourselves for not doing more than we did to help in a situation we carry a pain buried deep inside. 
Oh we don't think about it every day. We get on with life and make the best of it. Life happens and if we let ourselves wallow in self pity, we will be drowning in it soon enough. Unfortunately, some of us do spend far to much time swimming around in our own little puddles of regret. But most of us, thankfully, can leave the disappointment in it's own little bubble and not visit too often but the bubble is still there.
The thing is you can't change what you did or didn't do before you can only change what you will do today and try to learn and grow. I am glad that this bubble of regret about the past has been burst. I feel good and can now move forward to include this cousin in my life again. I hope that we are able to stay in touch and that I can become a part of his family and he a part of mine once again. We will see what tomorrow brings but for today I have made a change for the better and I feel good!
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Paddy,
Good for you (and your cousin)! Reconnecting with someone from your past rekindles your spirit.
It is so true Cynthia. I feel like a weight is off my shoulders and I can breathe easier. As hard as it was to start the ball rolling once I saw him the rest was easy.
Good advice. I am glad you reconnected with your cousin. Wish you good luck.
Thanks so much Gita. I think we will make it now!
Congratulations on facing that challenge. You must feel a big weight lifted off of your shoulders.
Paddy - You are ahead of the curve , a slowed economy makes all of us rethink the fundamental relationships in our lives. I am so glad you were able to start the healing process.
Paddy, great testamony to how this recession has made us reconnect with what is most important in life.
Thanks John I do and I hope this helps at least one other person to make that first move.
I am too Laura.
Absolutely Janice and now things appear to be picking up in the market here too. Double bonus
Paddy, I understand, I had a falling out with a cousin and it was cleansing to reconnect and repair the damage.
I think that cleansing is a perfect word Caren and it goes so well with my bubbles. Thanks for the comment and I am glad you found a way to reconnect with your cousin too.
Paddy - I think we all have those parts of our lives where we are estranged from those we were once close to, for trespasses real and imagined. It is great that you are able to start righting things with your cousin.
Paddy , your posts are so up beat I do not need an extra cup of coffee in the morning when I read them they get me going. Thanks for the caffeine free lift
I am glad to hear we all have them because sometimes I feel that I might be the only one. It is just a feeling and I know it isn't true but I feel it anyway Mike. Thanks for the comment.
Paddy, you are inspiring. . .family matters because they are part of you. To preserve it. . your children play a major role.
I am happy for you. I recently had to forgive a close friend but it took a long time. I finally had to air all the things that had upset me. Now we are healed and closer than ever. Our new chapter almost didn't happen but I am so glad it did.
Glad to protect your blood pressure with the lower caffeine level Charlie. I am on my second cup here and that will be it, I swear!
It is so true Fernando. I was thinking about my children and how there is this whole other family of people they are related to that they don't know. Hopefully they will be able to meet someday soon!
I have been working on a lot of that reconnecting stuff lately mostly just things that had withered from neglect Mel. This one had a lot of emotion and pain behind it but it is sooo good to be on this new page now.
Paddy, I have connected with old friends on facebook, who I fell out of touch with years ago. We were part of a campus Christian organization and when we left they pretty much cut us off.
I know how you feel. Good for you.
It is great Missy Now I better go connect with some breakfast and get on with this day
Yes, I was feeling that. Mine was emotional as well but we are healing now and I feel good about it. It is not healthy to live with regret. I feel so much better.
Paddy - It's fun to reconnect with someone from the past. What's important is not to look at why you lost touch but to concentrate on the now and on the future! Have a great weekend!
Mary
I am glad you feel good again Mel. It is a good feeling.
You are so right Mary Have a great weekend too
Great post about the human side of forgiveness. Thanks Paddy - Oh, BTW turn about is fair play... I'm giving you Da Boot...
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Thanks Michael. Once in a while we get to make up and move on and it is worth celebrating!
Paddy - What a great story and I can relate to you on connecting with others from the past!
Vegas Bob
Thanks Bob I am happy it happened.